Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard these sayings:
“He that can have patience can have what he will.”
“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.”
“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.”
Just Google the word “Patience” and within seconds, pages of information, opinions and educational tips are right at your fingertip.
As we near Mother’s Day, I reflect on a saying that I heard often as a child… “Patience is a virtue.” For some of us (including me) that is a virtue that takes hard work and at times, difficult for me to achieve.
Good ole’ Webster’s Dictionary defines Patience as “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.”
What? The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.” That is a very tall order indeed!
As I write this blog, I have to ask “where” I may fall into this definition. Are there things that I can just let roll off my back – or am I a someone who has a hard time letting it go? Do I allow myself to react in ways that increase my blood pressure, or am I able to calmly act vs. react.
As a mother of a young child, there are a few (okay, more than a few) things that I am still working with my patience on. Some include, a lost shoe as we are ready to walk out the door, people who are chronically late and, of course, my favorite – people who cut me off in traffic.
As I sifted through my thoughts for this topic, I came across a few tips that I found helpful when it comes to dealing with those times when your blood is starting to boil.
WILL IT MATTER IN 100 YEARS?
Sometimes we tend to get upset over the little things (such as someone being late in my case). One good question I ask myself is: WILL IT MATTER IN 100 YEARS? If the answer is no, then should it really matter now?
COUNT TO 10:
This is a good one to implement when your (my) children’s’ shoes are lost! Before yelling at them in frustration count to 10. This may give them time to actually find their shoes, and – – more importantly, a chance for you to frame your words wisely to come out a bit nicer than just flying off the handle.
When you first start to lose your patience, take a deep breath in….and then slowly breath out. Doing this at least 3 times may just give you enough time to clear your thinking and put things into perspective. ((And…it’s scientifically proven that deep breathing actually triggers neurons in your brain that reverse engineer your mood.))
KEEP AT IT:
We are lifelong students and still learning as we go. We aren’t perfect at anything the first few times we try something new, so be PATIENT with yourself and remember…Practice Makes Progress (not perfection.)
KINDNESS & LOVE:
Instead of reacting with anger, teach yourself to react with kindness and love. When someone has yelled at you or your child spills something – the best reaction will always come from a place of kindness and love.
In the famous words of Phillip Brooks, “Be patient and understanding. Life is too short to be vengeful or malicious.” After proofing my own words for this post, I believe he was on to something…
― Alisha McKaughan (Student In Training)